In My Other Life
I’ve gotten a lot of questions about whether or not I make a living from freelance writing.
The answer is: No, not yet. From time to time, I do some consulting and I am whittling down my savings in order to change my life and be happy. Don’t try this at home. It’s scary and often times I worry about how I am going to pay the mortgage. I waited till I had a mental break down so I couldn’t work anymore. Do not push yourself to this point. There’s a lot of crying and self-help books and Oprah episodes involved.
Aside from losing weight, I have aspirations about making a living blogging and I am writing a memoir about my dysfunctional childhood. Uh … dysfunctional adulthood. Okay, I am writing a book because I can’t afford a therapist. It has taken a lot of years to realize that at some point you just need to say, fuck it and just live your life already.
But alongside of my blog, I also do a bit of video blogging over at Momversation. The current episode features Alice Bradley from Finslippy, Rebecca Woolf from Girls Gone Child and Heather Armstrong from Dooce. Today’s topic discusses the question:
What’s Harder: Wife or Mother?
I’ve never been married. I’ve been in three long term relationships though and I have to say that being a partner is much harder than being a parent.
I’ve found that you can’t ground your boyfriend.
Tags: alice bradley, dooce, finslippy, girls gone child, momversation, mother, Oprah, rebecca woolf, wife
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I haven’t made any money off blogging yet, either. Of course, I don’t put enough time and effort into it. It’s been a while since I contributed to the Florida Friends of Midwives blog — partly out of laziness, partly due to writer’s block, and partly because it was really hectic trying to cover my supervisor’s responsibilities while he was gone. Let me tell you, I already respected the guy, but now I can’t believe how he can manage to do his job and STILL say he loves it. I was sitting here desperate for Xanax!
Hopefully the CNN coverage helps you bridge the gap. I hate being poor. I’ve been poor for most of my adult life, and I don’t think I’ll ever lose sympathy for people going through the same garbage.
Note to self: Don’t give away my self help books yet. I actually started to go through them last night to give away to people, but now I may need to reconsider…
Hi Giyen!
I just started reading your blog today after I found you on CNN.com. You seem like an incredible person and completely adorable! Your daughter is beautiful too. Good luck with getting in shape and getting healthier! I know it’s hard, but you can do it! I’ll keep you bookmarked because I still haven’t gotten into the whole blog feed thing. =)
-jess
Congratulations! You have done something that millions wish they could do but either they don’t have the courage, or means or guts to go through with. Keep up the good work! I am a travel blogger myself and I love it.Very fulfilling!
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OMG… I just read your article on CNN and you were able to put into words what I have been going through the last few weeks. I quit my job right before the New Year, due to the stress and I just wasn’t happy there. I having been questioning my decesion since I left the building that day. Thanks to you, I can now officially call it the ” Freak Out period”. I wish you the best of luck with your new writing career.
LOL. I just left a comment on a fellow bloggers post about how my husband can tend to be my oldest “child” who’s living in dream IAMSPOILED land.
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I just finished reading your “About” section and I give you a ton of props for surviving in your family… for becoming a single Korean-American mother at such a young age and being so great at it… for being born in El Paso!!! I am also a Korean-American that lived in El Paso a good chunk of my life~ Good luck with your success in writing and your weight loss goal!
I too am on a mission to lose weight. I too am (journaling) so that I will have accountability for my actions (no intentions to make money).
Ok, I didn’t quit my job, but I still look at the want ads twice a week. On that account you have my highest respect.
Seems that there is a “more than usual” determination for the first of the year health rush. But you sound like you have a plan; keep praying, writing, and remember there is a world of people on the internet that you can (virtually lean on) to help you on your journey.
Cheers! Suzie
I have done the same thing too since July of 2008 had a panic attack after working 5 years in the insurance industry as an analyst/consultant. I am working on improving my self goals and find it very refreshing. Its tough financially speaking but I am happy that I did it. I dont want to live my life regretting that I took time out for everyone but myself. So I am happy for you and cheering you on. I guess we both belong to an exclusive club of brave and bold women.
Thanks everyone! Still amazed by people’s comments. I don’t recommend jumping off a cliff like I did but I am so much happier and glad that I did. You gotta do what you gotta do!
It’s good to finally be in a place where you can live for yourself and make decisions based on what’s right for you. Good luck with the whole process!
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I’ve really enjoyed your blog! I am one of the probably many new readers who saw you on CNN.com. Great work and writing. Keep it up. I think you will become a great writer and I wish you much luck on your journey of writing and weight loss. I need to lose a lot of weight myself! If you have a minute check out my blog, it’s thefreelancehumanbeing.blogspot.com
thank you and have a wonderful evening, C. Dylan Ryle
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