Circa 1996 – Post Break Up Hair
I think that Paige is around 2 years old in this photo. Her father and I had recently broken up and I am sporting my post break up haircut – the “Jennifer Aniston.” As a newly single mother, I distinctly recall having only two serious directives at the time – (a) lose weight and (b) get a new haircut. What can I say? My priorities were warped. I was 22.
Last night, Paige and her boyfriend broke up. All I can say is that (aside from health issues) living through a teen break up is about the worst thing that a parent can endure. Even though you aren’t the one being dumped – it doesn’t matter. You are getting dumped by proxy. I mean, what parent wouldn’t be affected by your kid walking around with a “I’m Never Gonna Dance Again” attitude? At the end of the first 24 hours, I am beginning to think that the world just might just come to a bitter and cold end too.
For Paige, the only thing worse than being dumped, is being dumped and having to hang out with your mother (which is the case). This means that if I was uncool before, I am an outcast now. Oh how I long for the days when a band-aid, Bactine and a kiss made everything better for her. What are my options now? What can I say to her in this situation? “The next time will be better? It gets easier each time you break up with someone? Don’t worry, Mommy will always love you?” This is so hard.
So instead of making things worse by trying to make things better, I did the only thing I could think of – I scheduled her in for a haircut this Saturday. If I can can’t give her a kiss and make the pain go away, I certainly can provide her with a little hairapy.
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Sometimes the best way of being there for someone is to … well … just be there. If they want advice, they usually ask for it. But she just needs her mommy to be mommy. As we know with kids and even for us adults, it’s just a matter of time to sort things out. Or just have a really good cry…just as long as she has someone to cry on and be reassured that someone is a constant in her life. I like your salon idea. It’s an anology of getting a fresh start and showing that she matters.
I think when I went through break-ups, I sorted just wanted to morph into a puddle in my bed. Maybe if she hasn’t had too many absences yet, a mental health day is in order?
Brilliant.
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I do the same thing in college. My boyfriend broke up with me and I chopped off my waist length hair to above my chin. I hope its as much of a relief for Paige as I found it to be.
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Poor girl! I think you’re on the right track. A little pampering may be just what she needs.
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I will have to remember that remedy when my girls are a bit older. Sigh, wasn’t it bad enough having OUR hearts broken but we have to help our daughters through it?
( I guess on the bright side though we have the wisdom to help, which will be scorned I imagine.. Sigh.
All the best to you and Paige in the days ahead. Love the mom and babe shot.
Oh no!! Hairapy is definitely the place to start!! Good luck…to both of you!
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It sounds like you’re handling it the best way you could. Add some ice cream to that and I’d say you’ve got yourself a good start!
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THIS IS SO TRUE! I don’t care how stereotypical it is, I love to get my haircut, especially when I’m feeling down =]
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