Remember those lovely girls that I visited up in Bellingham a couple of weeks ago? The ones that did the Heifer International social action project for their school? And then I made a little iReport/Youtube video out of my visit with them?
Well, their minds are blowing up right about now because of this:
The biggest THANK YOU to CNN. I know Quinn, Kelsey and Hazel are THRILLED TO DEATH about being on the news and having their small project turn into something larger than even they had dared to imagine.
Oh be-jesus. Why do I overshare? Did I really say that?
Okay, in the latest Momversation video Daphne from Cool Mom asks, “Is Your Mom-self Overtaking Your Sexual-self?”
My answer?
YES.
YES.
YES.
First of all … there’s a lot edited out of each video. There’s probably 30 minutes of footage that gets left on the production floor – never to see the light of day. Just so you know (a.k.a. damage control), Daphne mentioned that she had a single-mom friend who hasn’t had sex in 4 years offline. I retorted, “I am that single mother who hasn’t had sex in 4 years!” So I wasn’t quite having a random outburst about my sex life … there was actually some dialog about it that got edited out.
THAT SAID. It has been a long time. Maybe not 4 years, but a long, long time. And it’s true. I do feel like that sexy part of me is lost. And sometimes I feel completely pathetic about it. And not even pointy shoes can fill the void of actually feeling sexy because you are having sex. It’s awfully lonely sometimes.
Then again, these days I am a bit less cavalier about having sex. You could almost say that I am re-virginized like a born-again Christian or a Jonas Brother who is abstaining from sex because of their values. Maybe I should get one of those purity rings. Oh God. Please strike me down right now.
The truth is is that I just can’t find a partner. I am not meeting anyone that I am interested in having dinner with so I really can’t imagine finding someone that I want to get all sweaty and moany with. And honestly, having casual sex at age 35 doesn’t quite seem like who I am anymore. And I have nothing against casual sex. I was one of those people who had a lot of sex and then bragged about it to other people. If I was a SATC personality, I would have described myself to be a Samantha back in the day. Really. I swear to God. But clearly I have now morphed into a Charlotte (minus the religion) – it’s all about hope and love and happy endings.
Or maybe I’ve had all the sex one is supposed to have in their lifetime and therefore I have used up all of my credits in my twenties and early thirties. Good lord. I’ve used up my quota. That just can’t be right.
I just keep thinking that I am going to meet the guy who is going to blow my mind up and then it will be a done deal. That I won’t have to go through the bad date phase or the messiness. I’ve done that. If I have used up all my quota for sex, then I’ve also managed to use up my “bad date” quota too.
My plan now?
Meet guy. Live happily ever after. The end.
Something tells me it’s not quite going to be that easy.
Ugh. Shall we let the litany of bad date stories begin?
You might remember that this whole weight loss thing started with the New Year’s Resolution of saying ‘yes’ to living a more meaningful life. Part of the resolution was the commitment to saying ‘yes’ to losing weight – but the other part of the resolution was meant to get me to start saying ‘yes’ to new opportunities that presented themselves … instead of running away from them (like I had been).
Several weeks ago I was sifting through my Gmail and out of curiosity I decided to look in my “spam” mail box. Mind you, I NEVER do this and must have been excessively bored. I get hundreds of SPAM emails a day and never give it another thought. For whatever reason, my eyes were drawn to a email with the subject line: “POVERTY IN AFRICA, please read!”
At first I thought it was one of those scams that try and get you to release your bank account information, but it turns out that the email wasn’t SPAM at all. It was written by a middle school student named Quinn. She and her classmates Kelsey & Hazel were doing a social action project focused on Heifer International. She was asking me to help her spread the word about this organization via my blog.
Instead of deleting the email or responding with quick reply of ‘thanks, but no thanks’ – Paige and I decided to help them out (we have a soft spot for middle school girls). We took a road trip to Bellingham, Washington to meet the girls in person to hear what they had to say and then made a little video about it:
If you enjoyed this video or want to spread the word about Heifer International – please Tweet, Buzz, Stumble or post this video on Facebook. Let’s show Quinn, Kelsey and Hazel that their voices can invoke change and even at their age, they can make a difference through their actions.
“In order to move forward, you have to give something back.”
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