Comments on: A Subject Of Great Consternation

By: Nita

Nita — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 14:00:37 +0000

Just came across your blog a few days ago & this entry reached out, grabbed my heart & gave it a tug. As has been stated, your daughter is lucky to have such a wonderful mother. I can relate to Paige, as my parents divorced when I was 1 & my father has been in & out of my life ever since [29 years]. When he does contact me/see me, it’s on HIS terms. Even now that he is a grandfather for the first time, he does little to show he cares or connect with us. My son’s first birthday was less than a month ago & he didn’t send a card, call or even leave a message on Facebook wishing his grandson a happy birthday :/

Paige sounds like a strong, beautiful hearted girl. It’s not easy having one parent basically be absent in your life, but I hope she can continue to be as forgiving & open hearted as the years go on. Through it all, I continue to leave the door open for my father to step up & be the “Dad” he has never been. Even at 30 years old, I’d still like a “Dad”. I hope that by 30, Paige isn’t waiting on the same thing & her relationship with her father is on much more solid ground.

[P.S. Unlike Paige, I did not have a loving, supportive mother to guide me along the way. My mother was, unfortunately, also not the greatest parent. So what a blessing she has such a great mom willing to fend & fight for her if need be.]

By: jess

jess — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 18:10:57 +0000

wow. whether you believe it or not right now, you are an amazing mother. you’ve raised an awesome daughter and you don’t give yourself enough credit sometimes. i’m sure you are so proud of her, but you should be proud of yourself too for shaping her into the wonderful person that she is becoming. =)

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:39:36 +0000

Paige is lucky to have one parent whose love and concern and sense of responsibility for her wellbeing is taking the place of two. You rock. Don’t ever forget it.

Also, she will likely grow up to see how all the people we love are flawed (some more than others) and she will gain a great sense of just how very much you love her by the way that you are the consistent parent, and that you supported her in her efforts to have a relationship with someone who really doesn’t get the role of a real dad. If she’s smart (and I think she is) she’ll figure that out, and love you even more for letting her try to work on a relationship wtih her father. Kudos to you for doing it. (What a manipulative move, calling her when he should have “manned up” and called you directly-lame!)

By: Phoebe

Phoebe — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:40:16 +0000

Hey there strong mom. Keep on keepin’ on. I’m a mom. My daughter’s name is Paige. Her dad divorced me and was an incredible jerk (i’m being nice in a huge way with this description.) However for my daughter and her brother I took care of him when he had cancer, through his death and after his death as well. And it is for my kids. …For them to experience first hand that that their mother can treat their father with kindness and concern. Also, please know that he is valuable to her alive. She will see who he is as he ages. With my kids, their dad in nostalgia’s eyes becomes very sainted.

By: mrs.notouching

mrs.notouching — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 01:00:04 +0000

You are a great mother. I have the opposite problem – my mother keeps forgiving my father over and over again…and she keeps asking me to forgive him for being in and out of my life. I cannot stand their toxic relationship. So tired. So angry. So over it.

P.S. Soooo agree with Milla – the shirt is definitely WTF? =)
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