Oh be-jesus. Why do I overshare? Did I really say that?
Okay, in the latest Momversation video Daphne from Cool Mom asks, “Is Your Mom-self Overtaking Your Sexual-self?”
My answer?
YES.
YES.
YES.
First of all … there’s a lot edited out of each video. There’s probably 30 minutes of footage that gets left on the production floor – never to see the light of day. Just so you know (a.k.a. damage control), Daphne mentioned that she had a single-mom friend who hasn’t had sex in 4 years offline. I retorted, “I am that single mother who hasn’t had sex in 4 years!” So I wasn’t quite having a random outburst about my sex life … there was actually some dialog about it that got edited out.
THAT SAID. It has been a long time. Maybe not 4 years, but a long, long time. And it’s true. I do feel like that sexy part of me is lost. And sometimes I feel completely pathetic about it. And not even pointy shoes can fill the void of actually feeling sexy because you are having sex. It’s awfully lonely sometimes.
Then again, these days I am a bit less cavalier about having sex. You could almost say that I am re-virginized like a born-again Christian or a Jonas Brother who is abstaining from sex because of their values. Maybe I should get one of those purity rings. Oh God. Please strike me down right now.
The truth is is that I just can’t find a partner. I am not meeting anyone that I am interested in having dinner with so I really can’t imagine finding someone that I want to get all sweaty and moany with. And honestly, having casual sex at age 35 doesn’t quite seem like who I am anymore. And I have nothing against casual sex. I was one of those people who had a lot of sex and then bragged about it to other people. If I was a SATC personality, I would have described myself to be a Samantha back in the day. Really. I swear to God. But clearly I have now morphed into a Charlotte (minus the religion) – it’s all about hope and love and happy endings.
Or maybe I’ve had all the sex one is supposed to have in their lifetime and therefore I have used up all of my credits in my twenties and early thirties. Good lord. I’ve used up my quota. That just can’t be right.
I just keep thinking that I am going to meet the guy who is going to blow my mind up and then it will be a done deal. That I won’t have to go through the bad date phase or the messiness. I’ve done that. If I have used up all my quota for sex, then I’ve also managed to use up my “bad date” quota too.
My plan now?
Meet guy. Live happily ever after. The end.
Something tells me it’s not quite going to be that easy.
Ugh. Shall we let the litany of bad date stories begin?
Last December Mir, a fellow blogger and wise sage, graciously took her husband Otto to the World of Coke for his birthday. While en route to a day full of carbonated fun, a funny thing happened:
The Sunday before last, Paige and I were up in Bellingham (more to tell you about that visit) and a funny thing happened on the way home:
My friend Rene and I have this running joke anytime we are faced with a difficult question. We ask ourselves, “What would the Chinese do?”or “WWCD?”
Let me give you a recent example:
Rene: Do you think that it’s okay that I work up till my due date or should I take a month off before I have the baby? Will the baby be okay?
Me: Do you really think that the women in China are asking this question??? There are 6 BILLION Chinese people and I can pretty much guarantee you that the majority of those mothers are not taking time off before the baby is born.
Is not that we think the Chinese are superior beings, but without all the affluence, they are forced to “make do” with what they have. It has become our litmus test to determine if we are being over-sensitive based on our cultural biases. I mean, when Rene listed a “wipe warmer” as a newborn necessity, I just about peed my pants. I can almost imagine all of those people in the factories of China laughing at the fact that they are manufacturing products like wipe warmers for us …
So recently on Momversation, I brought up the topic, “Are We Over Medicating Our Kids?” My opinion? I totally think we over medicate our children in America. And I also think we over medicate adults too.
Before you start the rampage of wonder drug testimonials and accusing me of being on the Tom Cruise/eMeter/thetans side of the fence. I don’t hate medication. On the contrary … I’ve had a love affair with Ambien (that ended badly), I went on some dates with Paxil too. It just never worked out. I never ruled them out as an option, but I’ve never had much luck in the long term (but I know that plenty of people have had luck with them).
It’s been my experience that of all the doctors that I’ve seen over the course of my lifetime, not one, NOT A SINGLE ONE, suggested that I lose weight and exercise more as a treatment for my depression. And oddly enough, diet and exercise (and meditation) has been the most effective treatment for me thus far. Some of you may say that I must not have been that depressed, but honey, I’ve suffered through bouts of debilitating depression all of my life … it’s been a long dark road to get to this point. I am not going to defend myself here.
But I often wonder how the folks in China (or any other country) get around pumping as much medication into their systems as we Americans? Do they have a lower incident of ailments that require medication? Do they have some secret alternative medicine or treatment that they are using? Or are they just running around all under-medicated? How do they get around it or do they? WWCD?
What do you think?
PS. Let me just restate that I am not anti-prescription meds. But I am pro-alternative treatment.
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